Young children are inquisitive and curious. They are trying to work things out for themselves, so it can be very effective to explain the reasons for the instructions and guidance we give them. Rather than mandating behavior or imposing a discipline based on external authority, it is better to help them see the results of acting in a certain way. The long-term goal is for them to adopt the values as their own, rather than experience them as externally imposed.

When we talk to children, we can try to put sense into their heads, but just as importantly, we should try to put sense into their hearts. We should have the patience to talk to children, to educate them. Teach children how to value their own principles. Our aim should be to instill in them good ways of thinking and feeling for themselves.

17th Karmapa

from the book The Heart Is Noble: Changing the World from the Inside Out

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Further quotes from the book The Heart Is Noble:

• Interdependent reality
• Boxing Love with Our Expectations
• We truly have everything we need already
• Look what he did
• Balanced Life
• Who are you
• Let the moon be the keeper of my love
• Distinguishing between wants and needs
• Breaking barriers
• Expanding our sense of ourselves
• Take joy in your sincere intentions
• We need space to grow and learn from our own mistakes
• Facing Impermanence Wisely
• Greed is a recipe for dissatisfaction
• The Wealth of Contentment
• True Wealth
• Social action
• Life in Balance
• The intention to work for others
• The kindness we receive from others