Thubten ChodronIt can be difficult to accept others and to accept ourselves. “I should be better. I should be something different. I should have more.” All of this is conception; it’s all mental fabrication. It’s just the mind churning up “shoulds,” “ought tos,” and “supposed tos.” All this is conceptual rubbish, and yet we believe it. Part of the solution is to recognize that these thoughts are conceptual rubbish and not reality; this gives us the mental space not to believe them. When we stop believing them, it becomes much easier to accept what we are at any given moment, knowing we will change in the next moment. We’ll be able to accept what others are in one moment, knowing that they will be different in the next moment. This is good stuff for everyday practice; it’s very practical.
Motivation and determination ~ 14th Dalai Lama
14th Dalai LamaThe success of our lives and our future depends on our motivation and determination or self-confidence. Through difficult experiences, life sometimes becomes more meaningful. If you look at people who, from the beginning of their lives, have had everything, you may see that when small things happen they soon lose hope or grow irritated. Others have developed stronger mental attitudes as a result of their hardships.
Be rich in honesty ~ Kyong Ho
Kyong HoDon’t seek profit over and above what your work is worth. Acquiring false profit makes a fool (of oneself). So an ancient once said, “Be rich in honesty.”
We all want to understand and to love ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Thich Nhat HanhWe want to understand ourselves, the world around us, and what it means to be alive on Earth. We want to discover who we really are, and we want to understand our suffering. Understanding our suffering gives rise to acceptance and love, and this is what determines our quality of life. We all need to be understood and to be loved. And we all want to understand and to love.
Our minds and the Dharma go different ways ~ Dudjom Rinpoche
Dudjom RinpocheNowadays we all boast that we are Dharma practitioners, but we have not severed our attachment to the things of this life, we have not turned our minds away from cyclic existence, we have not relinquished even the smallest of our desires — for friends and relations, entourage, servants, food and clothes, pleasant conversation, and the like. As a result, any positive activities we undertake are not really effective. Our minds and the Dharma go different ways.
The guru is like the horizon ~ Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche
Dzongsar Khyentse RinpocheHere, in this book, I will try to show that the guru is actually like the horizon. A horizon is apparent — a line where earth and sky appear to meet. But in reality, they never meet. There is only an illusion of an ending point, a point of reference where we can stand and measure and assess. In this way, the guru is like a horizon between wisdom and method, myth and truth, science and faith.
The flow of life appears as a rainbow ~ 7th Dalai Lama
7th Dalai LamaYour mind absorbed in bliss and void inseparable, the flow of life appears as a rainbow. One body endlessly sending forth clouds of emanations to set this world ablaze with joy.
Still be seduced by appearances ~ Tulku Urgyen Rinpoche
Tulku Urgyen RinpocheIt is not enough to strive for the higher teachings and ignore the real substance of the Dharma, which is a change in attitude. unless we can change our hearts at a deep and profound level, the samsaric traits of our personality will all remain and we will still be seduced by appearances. As long as our mind is fickle, it is easy to become carried away in the chase for power and wealth or the pursuit of beautiful objects, in concerns of business and politics, in intrigues and deceit. It is easy to become an insensitive practitioner who cannot be ‘cured’ or changed by the Dharma.
Only with recognition ~ Mingyur Rinpoche
Mingyur RinpocheEveryone has dimensions to their mind that are luminous, spacious, and empty. The issue is whether we recognize these aspects or not. Liberation arises only with recognition, not just from having these natural qualities.
The gift of the Dharma ~ Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
Dilgo Khyentse RinpocheThere are innumerable beings wandering in saṃsāra, completely lost and all in desperate need of your help. Since they have all been your loving parents at one time or another in the past, you must help them. But how? Even if you could provide all of them with money and comfort, that would only bring them an incomplete and short-lived respite from their suffering. Reflect deeply; of all the possible ways to help them, there could be no gift more beneficial than the gift of the Dharma, for that is something that will not only help them in this life but also free them from future rebirths in the lower realms and finally lead them to enlightenment.
Naturalness ~ 17th Karmapa
17th KarmapaInfants and young children naturally and spontaneously reveal what they feel. They are not held back by inhibitions or enmeshed in habits of deception. One effect of babies’ naturalness is that people feel affection towards them, and this kindness that others show them is necessary for their survival. We find small children adorable and loveable, and we are therefore willing to take care of their needs. People stop to admire them and want to caress and hold them. If they cry, we want to discover why so we can give them whatever they lack. When humans are very young, we are naturally open and straightforward. If a small child sees another playing at something, he or she might walk straight up and join the other in the play. Children unselfconsciously wave at people in passing trains or cars. They do not doubt others’ intentions or seek to deceive them.
The intention to benefit others ~ Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche
Dilgo Khyentse RinpocheIf your mind is always filled with the intention to benefit others, then, no matter what your actions may look like on the surface, the application bodhichitta will take care of itself. If you can maintain this attitude of bodhichitta, not only will you never stray from the path, you will also definitely make progress along it. When your body, speech, and mind are completely saturated with the wish to help all sentient beings, when your aim both for others and for yourself is perfect Buddhahood, then even the smallest action, a single recitation of the maṇi or a single prostration, will swiftly and surely bring the fulfillment of your goal.
Overpowered by the images of the mind’s lucidity ~ Thrangu Rinpoche
Thrangu RinpocheWhen we watch a television program, we have no trouble identifying places, persons, animals, mountains, and so on. Through becoming involved with the program, we identify with what we are seeing and begin to feel an emotional response. Actually what we are looking at are not places, persons, animals, or mountains, but points of light on a tube in a little box. The confusion that is necessary to enjoy a television program is similar to bewilderment or ignorance, where the very vividness or intensity of the images of the mind’s lucidity overpowers the mind.
Meritorious Deeds ~ Mipham Rinpoche
Mipham RinpocheO father, this world is the site of karma;
beyond it lies the site of karmic result.
Whatever we have done in this life,
we will definitely experience in another.Even small virtues and sins
can have extensive results.
Having been born into this site of karma,
why not opt for planting virtuous seeds?
Nothing to remove, nothing to add ~ Maitreya
MaitreyaTherein is nothing to remove
And thereto not the slightest thing to add.
The perfect truth viewed perfectly
And perfectly beheld is liberation.
The enlightened mind ~ Longchenpa
LongchenpaThe enlightened mind
Is without coming or departing.
It is neither outside nor within.
Transcending thought, it has no partiality.
It is ultimate reality, unlimited and unconfined,
Wherein there is no wide or narrow
And no high or low.
So set aside all anxious search for it.
Stages of meditation ~ Tulku Thondup Rinpoche
Tulku Thondup RinpocheIn the past, teachers often had to persuade their students to move to higher levels of meditations, as students were usually humble and cautious. Today, however, even beginners want to practice only the highest meditations, like the loving-kindness free from concepts or emptiness. They dive into ocean-like meditations without any clue of their depths, whether due to arrogance or being unrealistic.
The problem is that, if you try to meditate on high teachings like emptiness without adequate preparation from the ground level, you could very easily fall into the extreme views and experiences of nihilism or eternalism, while holding on to a subtle concept or thought of grasping at “a nothing” or “a non-existence.” Or you could become lost in a state of being spaced out, with your mind endlessly floating semi-unconsciously, while you are not aware of anything.
If these errors occur, though you might not be committing any gross misdeeds, you would still be very much recycling yourself in the chain of ignorance and confusion, which drag you further from the light of wisdom. True realization is the realization of the union of freedom from grasping at anything and the wisdom of self-awareness. But, again, high realizations will not take place unless you have vigorously trained in the preliminary trainings for a long time. Being smart, prosperous, youthful, or powerful cannot buy true realization.
Sooner or later, you will have to check ~ Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche
Dzongsar Khyentse RinpocheWhen you check into a hotel you don’t immediately start thinking that you’ll spend eternity with the managers, maids, and waiters. Your home, your friends, your ideals and values are just part of a hotel experience. Sooner or later, you will have to check out and leave them all behind.
Remaining stuck in the repetitious habit of escalating our dissatisfaction ~ Pema Chödron
Suffering and Happiness
Pema ChödronWe look for happiness in all the wrong places. The Buddha called this habit “mistaking suffering for happiness.” We become habituated to reaching for something to ease the edginess of the moment. Thus we become less and less able to reside with even the most fleeting uneasiness or discomfort. What begins as a slight shift of energy — a minor tightening of our stomach, a vague indefinable feeling that something bad is about to happen — escalates into addiction. This is our way of trying to make life predictable. Because we mistake what always results in suffering to be what will bring us happiness, we remain stuck in the repetitious habit of escalating our dissatisfaction.
Everything and everyone is benefiting you ~ 17th Karmapa
17th KarmapaYou can train yourself in this way to feel surrounded on all sides by goodness and benefit. Everything and everyone is benefiting you. The whole world becomes your personal benefactor and is part of you. You have not only been benefited in material terms. Those whose ideas you find useful, who brings out the best in you, who challenge you to grow — they are also your personal benefactors and form part of who you are.
Teaching yourself to see and feel in this way will make it much easier for you to feel close to others. It can make a tremendous contribution to your personal happiness and can certainly make you a more positive force in the interdependent world.